tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6801485432556979796.post2278618330208423261..comments2024-02-22T02:15:01.912-08:00Comments on The Narcissistic Continuum: Ego-dystonic and Ego-syntonicCZBZhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09575206236892096611noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6801485432556979796.post-1693888443575706192014-05-21T10:58:24.399-07:002014-05-21T10:58:24.399-07:00this is how the alcoholic recovers when behaviors ...this is how the alcoholic recovers when behaviors are recognized, when the drinking is stopped, the work ( working the steps ) begins to change them or return to the darkness of alcoholism. Egosyntonic, narcissistic personalities, selfish and self centerness is the root of the problem, the ego must be deflated at depth and stop playing God.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6801485432556979796.post-69247616309345186012012-02-10T11:19:41.078-08:002012-02-10T11:19:41.078-08:00Thank you for taking the time to read my blog, ano...Thank you for taking the time to read my blog, anonymous! I have a deep respect and appreciation for psychology, too. Especially in application to 'normal' functioning. <br /><br />Our current focus on social psychology is cutting through people's fear of therapy as pointless navel-gazing. A perception that in some cases, merits criticism. Learning about the human psych, how we think, why we do the things we do, improves the quality of our decisions and facilitates healthier relationship with other people and of course, with ourselves!<br /><br />I am sorry to hear that you are going through a rough time with your son. Anytime you'd like to talk about your experience, feel free to post on my blog or join our forum. It can help so much, just talking with other people and finding out that we aren't alone. <br /><br />Big hugs,<br />CZCZBZhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09575206236892096611noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6801485432556979796.post-2101445136449780272012-02-10T06:57:48.805-08:002012-02-10T06:57:48.805-08:00Thank you so much for further clarifying these two...Thank you so much for further clarifying these two terms and from a parenting perspective. I just briefly learned it from a therapist in an effort to understand my teenager's ego syntonic behavior. I love your blog as psychology is a big interest in general and living terms for me.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6801485432556979796.post-85528978535148713202011-03-23T19:43:26.818-07:002011-03-23T19:43:26.818-07:00We can talk here if you'd like. Or, you can jo...We can talk here if you'd like. Or, you can join the Web of Narcissism forum and we'll talk though the General message Forum. Would either of those options work for you?<br /><br />The url to the message board is:<br /><br />http://www.webofnarcissism.com<br /><br /><br />Hugs,<br />CZCZBZhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09575206236892096611noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6801485432556979796.post-27734905244083471202011-03-23T19:30:05.965-07:002011-03-23T19:30:05.965-07:00Is there some way to contact you?Is there some way to contact you?BodhiMahttp://bodhicittama.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6801485432556979796.post-277178059115754652011-03-22T12:20:00.523-07:002011-03-22T12:20:00.523-07:00Glad I found this. Have a lot of catching up to do...Glad I found this. Have a lot of catching up to do. <br /><br />Feel free to take a look at my blog:'<br />http://bodhicittama.blogspot.com/BodhiMahttp://bodhicittama.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6801485432556979796.post-34603865950894609282010-12-30T16:25:48.622-08:002010-12-30T16:25:48.622-08:00I have just spent about the entire day now reading...I have just spent about the entire day now reading every single narc blog. I enjoyed reading these so much. Having a twin that is one has been horrifying, but somehow I still managed to laugh through many of these posts. Lovely writing. Thanks!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6801485432556979796.post-47147591447126362252008-09-11T18:30:00.000-07:002008-09-11T18:30:00.000-07:00You have the most fascinating blog. Your wtiting ...You have the most fascinating blog. Your wtiting is honest and intelligent and very interesting! I think I will spend some time here reading you. I think I will learn a lot.Synchronicityhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07631238942909923311noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6801485432556979796.post-61907739835899348982008-09-10T08:21:00.000-07:002008-09-10T08:21:00.000-07:00I have been digesting all the info about ego-dysto...I have been digesting all the info about ego-dystonic/ ego-systonic along with axis II info.<BR/><BR/>I am thinking about how triggers act...how they work. <BR/><BR/>With a trigger it is most likely that an ego-dystonic behavior will happen.<BR/><BR/>There is a catch to PTSD in all of this that perpetuated it all and kept it locked into place despite the need and desire to do other. <BR/><BR/>I think it is important to bring behaviors in to the light but sometimes (past tense for the most part here) I didn't know where they came from or how they were even invented.What were the behaviors doing? What was there purpose? <BR/><BR/>Ultimately, for myself, it isn't/wasn't easy as simply noticing a behavior that I don't like it requires unraveling and digging to acquire the insights into the behavior. Then there is the retraining after that is all happened. <BR/><BR/>I believe this is the back bone to the therapy I have been working with. It is the mundane practice that happens every singe day.<BR/><BR/>Before all of this could even begin there was a process of<BR/>learning emotional regulation. That would be the catch to PTSD. That is the part where every one else who is not PT can actually see behavior and motivate. With PTSD You can not get your hands on it. Everything is so high wired that there is no moment to comment or reflect. The whole body drags through a hurricane. <BR/><BR/>So I would say that on the level of ego - systonic in relation to PTSD everything is based on experiences and behaviors that I do/did not want.<BR/><BR/>Here I am saying the complete opposite of how I had originally responded. It took me a while to see the equation and understand the definition. <BR/><BR/>At first glance at the definition is sounded as though one is cut off from knowing or fully experiencing behavior. That is how I interpreted it. <BR/><BR/>Now that is cleared up.<BR/><BR/> Thank You CZBZ for bringing this subject up. Now that I am more rather than less disengaged with ego-systonic behaviors I can actually reflect and see the map of it all a whole lot better. These terms do make sense.<BR/><BR/>Peace,<BR/><BR/>anonymous-eyesAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6801485432556979796.post-64693728449776785662008-09-10T00:24:00.000-07:002008-09-10T00:24:00.000-07:00Bravo! It's often minimized - the work one does t...Bravo! It's often minimized - the work one does to create the change you have described. And, the friend introducing the tapes? Has to have been a guardian angel and spiritual mother for the masses. Now, you are sharing the gift bestowed upon you with all of us. <BR/><BR/>Thank you,<BR/><BR/>JudeAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com