tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6801485432556979796.post3156651155726029089..comments2024-02-22T02:15:01.912-08:00Comments on The Narcissistic Continuum: Sorrow for a Life Cut Short by SuicideCZBZhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09575206236892096611noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6801485432556979796.post-44838225120533280642013-06-30T03:22:36.936-07:002013-06-30T03:22:36.936-07:00I am so sorry, CZ...these things are so hard even ...I am so sorry, CZ...these things are so hard even to write about, but you did a wonderful thing here putting into words that which gives such pain.<br /><br />My husband's second wife is a terrible narcissist. 30 years ago there were little words to define her, it is only in the past 10 that we can see her for what she is. <br /><br />When we first got married, within 2 months, she claimed she was pregnant by my husband, which was a lie. This poor child was a pawn of her and her mother. It was a way to undercut our new marriage and it did for a couple of weeks. Then I smelled a rat. This poor child was emotional blackmail, used by the mother and grandmother for 15 years until he jumped from a parking deck and died. When he did, I received a phone call at 6am, demanding to speak to my husband. I offered my condolences, but refused her request. I saw what was coming. She went into her usual rant. I hung up.<br /><br /><br />My husband does have a son by her, who is now 30 years old. He's a wonderful young man who has suffered the injuries by these two harpies his whole life. By the time he was 14 he was forced to do all the household bills, etc. His mother blamed the death of this child on him, too...saying that he spent too much time at school and not enough with this brother. This was a terrible burden for this great young man to carry. He didn't know until almost the Xmas before what his mother and grandmother were doing to our marriage: he didn't know the web of lies and blackmail they were spewing our way for 15 years. He did know that my husband wasn't the father, and did know who was. But because these woman couldn't take responsibility of their own behavior, because narcissism was so prevelant in this family, a child died.<br /><br />Oh, my husband left her after a year and a half of marriage because she tried to kill him with a knife when he was asleep.<br /><br />It is a great source of anger and rage for her and her crazy mother that this kid is now calling on holidays, birthdays, etc...and spent Xmas with us. He has never had a normal family and at least we can give him that.<br /><br />Blessings on you, CZ...for all this pain.<br /><br />Lady NyoAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6801485432556979796.post-63888079906725488282009-11-18T12:52:07.267-08:002009-11-18T12:52:07.267-08:00I lost my child in June but not to suicide.
My h...I lost my child in June but not to suicide. <br /><br />My heart goes out to the family and friends. I am sorry...Have Myelin?https://www.blogger.com/profile/05704037582961814202noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6801485432556979796.post-135164618775247672009-11-17T09:34:40.407-08:002009-11-17T09:34:40.407-08:00I have found that writing helps me put words to my...I have found that writing helps me put words to my feelings as a type of emotional release. After a few years of writing out my pain and suffering (ha!), writing has become an automatic response to emotional situations and experiences.<br /><br />There is solace in typing words on a keyboard, dredging up our deepest feelings so we can validate them as being 'real' and worthy of words. <br /><br />Knowing that other people resonate with my life experience is 'connecting' and 'healing'...thank you for posting your condolences, anon.<br /><br />Hugs,<br />CZCZBZhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09575206236892096611noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6801485432556979796.post-46149248646358444992009-11-17T04:41:05.939-08:002009-11-17T04:41:05.939-08:00I'm so sorry. Suicide is never easy, and is pa...I'm so sorry. Suicide is never easy, and is particularly tragic in someone so young. Wish I had something to offer besides my condolences.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com