tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6801485432556979796.post3267146171416096108..comments2024-02-22T02:15:01.912-08:00Comments on The Narcissistic Continuum: I'm good enough, I'm smart enough...and people like me!CZBZhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09575206236892096611noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6801485432556979796.post-27101457525955783882009-10-10T12:31:39.722-07:002009-10-10T12:31:39.722-07:00Dear anonymous,
I hope to never become 'indif...Dear anonymous,<br /><br />I hope to never become 'indifferent'...not even to the narcissists who've caused me pain because they were 'indifferent' to their impact on others. <br /><br />I hope to always remain a caring and loving women who can accept her losses and feel deep sadness about the choices people make. Choices that are never fulfilling and ultimately self-defeating if the goal is to Love-and-Be-loved by others.<br /><br />And, I hope to never blame, judge or mistreat myself because I care and care deeply. <br /><br />It can be all-too-easy to pathologize ourselves for trying TOO hard, for believing despite evidence to the contrary, that people wanted to bask in the safety of a secure and trustworthy relationship. <br /><br />so what if we make mistakes and so what if our assumptions are erroneous? What speaks loudly to me is the desire of the good and loving heart that encourages people to keep trying. We may have to walk away at some point if the relationship is damaging to our sense of self and worth but we can still honor ourselves for being willing to 'try'. <br /><br />And honor ourselves for loving and caring about people as a major human accomplishment. <br /><br />"Ya win some and ya lose some" they say but as far as I'm concerned, anyone who was able to love a prickly narcissist should recognize themselves as having done a nigh-to-impossible feat. <br /><br />I hope people can resist blaming themselves for trying...that's another challenge we face when we're untangling the web of narcissism. <br /><br />Hugs,<br />CZBZCZBZhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09575206236892096611noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6801485432556979796.post-41992034301644291012009-10-10T06:12:39.179-07:002009-10-10T06:12:39.179-07:00"The problem is that it often take years of f..."The problem is that it often take years of failed rescue attempts before we accept the fact that ya can't fix other people if they don't wanna fix themselves."<br /><br />I still struggle with this one, but have gotten so much better.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com