tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6801485432556979796.post3915319567077207302..comments2024-02-22T02:15:01.912-08:00Comments on The Narcissistic Continuum: Teenage runaways and clear-hearted compassionCZBZhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09575206236892096611noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6801485432556979796.post-46884645507278788622009-03-15T07:59:00.000-07:002009-03-15T07:59:00.000-07:00Dear Stormchild,I appreciate your support. Very mu...Dear Stormchild,<BR/><BR/>I appreciate your support. Very much. This latest crisis has knocked the wind out of our sails because it was so unexpected. We aren't screamers, dreamers or schemers in my household so having a young man decide it was better to live on the streets was a shocker for all of us. <BR/><BR/>He was unprepared for the Reality Check he got, though. Sleeping on the streets is not nearly as heroic as Will Smith's portrayal in "The Pursuit of Happyness." <BR/><BR/>My nephew didn't end up becoming a successful stock broker on Wall Street, he ended up in juvenile detention with one crummy blanket in a cold, concrete room. <BR/><BR/>Now That's a Wake-Up Call.<BR/><BR/>LOL,<BR/><BR/>CZ <BR/>(C=Courage, and Z for Zoologist)CZBZhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09575206236892096611noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6801485432556979796.post-48835470791531418342009-03-14T19:01:00.000-07:002009-03-14T19:01:00.000-07:00Welcome back - Lord, you've been missed!!!"If a ch...Welcome back - Lord, you've been missed!!!<BR/><BR/>"If a child has trouble sensing right from wrong, then allowing him the opportunity to experience negative consequences without our interference, will teach him more than any long-winded lecture a parent might deliver. <BR/><BR/>Pain is a universal compass when an innate moral guidance system is faulty."<BR/><BR/>Absolutely brilliant in its simplicity and accuracy. And very, very wise. You are doing nothing whatsoever that would gratuitously augment his pain. You are also doing nothing that would gratuitously shelter him from the direct consequences of his behavior.<BR/><BR/>Rare balance. And I know it comes at a price. It hurts like hell to watch these things happen to people we love... but it's going to hurt worse, ultimately, if these things don't happen now, or aren't a sufficient deterrent. <BR/><BR/>There's nothing loving about enabling - nothing at all. Brava, CZ. [No accident, is it, that Brava - literally - means brave.]Stormchildhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05039949137714076734noreply@blogger.com