tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6801485432556979796.post7045485853087874910..comments2024-02-22T02:15:01.912-08:00Comments on The Narcissistic Continuum: Midlife Bloomers, not Baby BoomersCZBZhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09575206236892096611noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6801485432556979796.post-65479599835978114442014-01-12T10:44:16.937-08:002014-01-12T10:44:16.937-08:00I LOVE your writing,and your wisdom. I have to co...I LOVE your writing,and your wisdom. I have to come back to this and read it closely....and I will today.<br /><br />Thank you, CZ....for what you do out in the world, and inside your kitchen!<br /><br />Love,<br /><br />Lady NyoAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6801485432556979796.post-16037208410945069632009-01-04T17:11:00.000-08:002009-01-04T17:11:00.000-08:00Anger is pretty untameable when you have squashed ...Anger is pretty untameable when you have squashed it for years. I grew up in an N family for twenty years, lived in a religious cult run by N men for twenty years, and finally at 40 left them all and came to my senses, largely through the help of people like yourself.<BR/><BR/>I hate being angry, but in the last five years, I have dealt with Christian School administrations who not only refuse to deal with school bullying but indulge in a culture of adult bullying both within the system and to parents, and I have also dealt with various other christians in the religious system who are more interested in silencing abuse than discussing it.<BR/><BR/>THAT makes me angry, and I am not going to excuse it. I don't know how to express anger without shaking and raising my voice. But I am not real good at objectively analysing my reactions either. I may think I came across really bitchin', but somebody else will say 'really? I knew you were upset, but you came across very self-controlled'. So, maybe I ain't that bad after all.<BR/><BR/>Anger is such a foreign emotion, and such a taboo one. I am good at numbing and dumbing myself in the face of pain but anger itself is painful. The pounding heart, racing thoughts etc...I used to have panic attacks from about the age of 19 (they stopped from about the age of 40 - gee I wonder why) and the adrenalin of panic and anger are very similar.<BR/><BR/>I guess what I am trying to say is that Anger is very important to me, but one day I would like to be so confident in my own ability to deal with people that it becomes a much less painful emotion, and instead becomes a helpful one.<BR/><BR/>The key for me is knowing that anger is just as much acceptable, and necessary as the other 'feel-good' emotions, and once I accept that, it won't be so scary.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com