tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6801485432556979796.post2708905834319878499..comments2024-02-22T02:15:01.912-08:00Comments on The Narcissistic Continuum: Why I Write About ParentingCZBZhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09575206236892096611noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6801485432556979796.post-66234430647300168382009-06-04T11:13:46.002-07:002009-06-04T11:13:46.002-07:00Hi Jennifer! Welcome to my blog...we can each use ...Hi Jennifer! Welcome to my blog...we can each use all the support we can get from one another. Parenting with a narcissistic partner is exhausting, draining, challenging, defeating, painful, frustrating, almost-hopeless, sometimes-dangerous, always regrettable and unfortunately: the foundation to despair and self-blame.<br /><br />Be kind to yourself. I'll be kind to myself and hopefully we'll inspire other people to do the same. <br /><br /><br />Big hugs,<br /><br />CZBZCZBZhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09575206236892096611noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6801485432556979796.post-83207052020137242332009-05-20T09:28:04.089-07:002009-05-20T09:28:04.089-07:00Yes, it is the hardest task around and I wouldn't ...Yes, it is the hardest task around and I wouldn't wish it on anyone. My exNH was diagnosed with NPD by a psychiatrist. I divorced him and am raising two small children on my own with significant amounts of horrifying interference and mean roadblocks from the bitter, rejected exNH who can't believe I didn't stay and suffer his abuse. My life and my children's lives are very hard and not what I would have chosen ever, but I know one thing, I am glad to be raising them this way rather than still married to that evil jerk. Nice choices we get once we get conned into marrying and having children with evil men.JSEEhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07209342906761023388noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6801485432556979796.post-90648299262559743452009-05-09T08:55:00.000-07:002009-05-09T08:55:00.000-07:00Bless your heart! It's amazing to me that partners...Bless your heart! It's amazing to me that partners of narcissists even dare admit they were parents. I think folks sometimes forget that just because we're mothers, we're still GROWING and LEARNING and HEALING, too. Nobody becomes a parent without plenty of childhood baggage to work through over a lifetime. <br /><br />Having a child can trigger us into facing our own issues, so think about that...we're doing double-time. Taking care of our children while also taking care of ourselves. If we're partnered with a narcissist, he-or-she may appear to be maturing in tandem but they’re continually stuck on issues we presumed they had worked through. <br /><br />I am so glad you posted a comment, anonymous. It takes a fair amount of courage to even admit we tried to raise our children with someone who was not able to 'bond' with us as his-or-her partner. When you look back on your life, as I do mine, isn’t it amazing that we kept doing the best we could even when it was overwhelming? Instead of berating yourself for not knowing what you couldn’t have known, focus on your courage, your intentions, your willingness to cooperate and support a partner who struggled to see outside himself. <br /><br />Thanks for your support…I am always relieved to know there are people like myself who understand. People who did the very best they could, but did not reap the rewards they expected from their hard labor and high hopes.<br /><br />Hugs,<br />CZCZBZhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09575206236892096611noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6801485432556979796.post-41929534004943898262009-05-08T05:34:00.000-07:002009-05-08T05:34:00.000-07:00"I do not know of ANY Parent in this whole Dad-Bla..."I do not know of ANY Parent in this whole Dad-Blasted freakin’ world that tries harder to do right by their children than the partner of a narcissist."<br /><br />This sentence made me cry. It is so true. I read once that we did more in one day, than most do in a month. Always picking up the pieces, always trying to protect our children, always trying to keep him happy and not step on any emotional landmines, ALWAYS something!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com