tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6801485432556979796.post2735626512209299043..comments2024-02-22T02:15:01.912-08:00Comments on The Narcissistic Continuum: Take the Narcissistic Personality InventoryCZBZhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09575206236892096611noreply@blogger.comBlogger36125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6801485432556979796.post-13159765274359609712017-06-20T17:02:47.966-07:002017-06-20T17:02:47.966-07:00Well, geez. I scored a 7, and most of mine was in ...Well, geez. I scored a 7, and most of mine was in exhibitionism/vanity. I used to be a burlesque performer soooo.. that makes a lotta sense. But wow, I guess I'm on the other end of the spectrum :P.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10921346537288849778noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6801485432556979796.post-55259576841829564632015-01-04T19:20:15.507-08:002015-01-04T19:20:15.507-08:00Some 15 points ish, and high Authority, I think I ...Some 15 points ish, and high Authority, I think I have safe Narcicism, and my authority issues makes my life fun! <br />My X "best buddy" is superior, exploititive and entitled as hell. <br />Other narcs in my life are more exploitative. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6801485432556979796.post-41550094055702342272015-01-01T08:11:35.346-08:002015-01-01T08:11:35.346-08:00In my late 50s and scored well into the single dig...In my late 50s and scored well into the single digit. Was a bit confused with two of the questions concerning being "special." There's two ways to look at that one : as a worldling fixing to make ones mark, or not - or as a redeemed soul. People who belong to Christ (predestined from the foundation of the world) are "special," but not in the worldly sense. And Christ's people will likely score very low. Also, i know i am not honest with myself, because the heart (my heart) is deceitful - such that, humans are clueless to the extent. And this is why my real score has to be higher than a mere 4. i tend to be a loner due to trust issues - that belies forgiveness issues. Yep, this ol' broad's got to get going on that rocky, narrow (and oftimes, lonely) road to the eternal city. Suehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12009191540139452049noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6801485432556979796.post-1520941585903711952012-10-17T09:03:04.527-07:002012-10-17T09:03:04.527-07:00Scored a 25. Entitlement 6/6, Vanity 3/3, Authori...Scored a 25. Entitlement 6/6, Vanity 3/3, Authority 6/7, Superiority 3/5, Exploitiveness 3/5, Self-sufficiency 3/6, Exhibition 1/7<br /><br />I guess this gives 13 points for "concerning" traits and 12 points for less concerning traits.<br /><br />Self awareness is right. I'm going to go back to your 13 suggestions (from "Help I'm a Narcissist") and start working through them.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6801485432556979796.post-5088141711280963612012-06-29T12:43:29.244-07:002012-06-29T12:43:29.244-07:00Kevin R,
Self-testing is specious to some degree,...Kevin R,<br /><br />Self-testing is specious to some degree, even if you aren't an official narcissist. That's because normal people are susceptible to self-enhancement. In other words, we see ourselves as being better than we actually are.<br /><br />Well...in the case of those who suffer from self-esteem, that's not exactly accurate. They may see themselves as being worse than they actually are. <br /><br />The point of any self-help tests listed on my blog is to inspire people to increase their self-awareness and get to know themselves in a more intimate way. These tests aren't meant to diagnose ourselves or label ourselves.<br /><br />At first (and I see from your blog that you are young), you may feel overwhelmed. Especially if you grew up in a narcissistic family that prevented 'individuation'...deny your authentic/true self from developing naturally. It's one step at a time, Kevin...and remember this cliche: "Rome wasn't built in a day". <br /><br />In other words, you have your entire lifetime to get to know yourself...take things as they come and don't be afraid. Fear blocks self-awareness and may even distort our perceptions. Just take heart in knowing the hero's journey has been part of our human experience long before you or I were ever born. Be fearless! <br /><br />Hugs,<br />CZCZBZhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09575206236892096611noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6801485432556979796.post-30455181264810954492012-06-29T12:36:04.616-07:002012-06-29T12:36:04.616-07:00Sorry about missing some of the incoming comments ...Sorry about missing some of the incoming comments to this post!<br /><br />Balancing demands to accommodate our family's needs with our own is very tricky. We need to be doing this our entire lives because if we don't, we'll have regrets and resentments. This may lead to a lowered self-esteem and if you're like myself, reciting a pile of positive affirmations isn't going to fix that problem. We need to be compassionate with ourselves because the truth is: life isn't fair. Some people get a bum deal. Some don't. Some people grow up with relatively few troubles and others deal with trauma before they can even speak. <br /><br />Wherever we are, whatever we have been through, being kind to ourselves is imperative. <br /><br />Hugs anon,<br />CZCZBZhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09575206236892096611noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6801485432556979796.post-9183845248156734532012-06-29T12:29:28.979-07:002012-06-29T12:29:28.979-07:00Hi Dave!
Keeping a steady partner and family tog...Hi Dave! <br /><br />Keeping a steady partner and family together is most definitely a sign of strength and resilience. It's tragic when fathers miss the opportunity to be a hero in their children's eyes and instead, prefer being a hero in an other woman's eyes. I can't write enough about the devastation a narcissistic father causes his family-of-creation. <br /><br />I appreciate your comment very much! <br /><br />Hugs,<br />CZCZBZhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09575206236892096611noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6801485432556979796.post-74388690003523602932012-06-28T09:05:35.049-07:002012-06-28T09:05:35.049-07:00Hi Anon
3 is ok. If that's how you feel about...Hi Anon<br /><br />3 is ok. If that's how you feel about things, it's a good score. Your childhood strikes a note there. Mine was similar. As for your Father and Grandfather, seems to me that they needed alcohol to build up confidence. Womanizing is pretty pathetic too, doesn't really indicate male prowess. Keeping a steady partner and family together does.<br /><br />I lived with the ungrateful, shame, guilt stigmas as well, nasty little tricks. <br /><br />Seems to me you're the best out of that bunch. It's a pity that we can't turn the clock back, but an innocent child can't compete with a scheming adult. Time to be selfish and enjoy it.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11969754189605721233noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6801485432556979796.post-73318929926860470262012-04-10T18:55:37.550-07:002012-04-10T18:55:37.550-07:00I'm a 61 year old male,and I only scored a 3. ...I'm a 61 year old male,and I only scored a 3. However you look at it, this is not a good score. I have empathy for the woman that posted about her narcissistic mother. I Always had to be good and do as I was told. Never allowed(or dared)to disagree. That was seen as disloyalty. How many times did I hear about all that she had done for me? I suppose that my mother and grandmother did not want me to be like my dad or grandad(mother's father ) they both had drinking problems and were womanizers. However,they had qualities that I might have used. neither was shy or lacked confidence. But, i've done okay. I have made a decent living and now have a good retirement started. I have two grown children who are doing very well in their jobs and personal lives. I just feel that I might have done better had I not been so accomodating to the needs of others and taken a little better care of my own needs.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6801485432556979796.post-47522968387527806482012-03-22T14:30:50.545-07:002012-03-22T14:30:50.545-07:00Like others have said, it's hard to self test ...Like others have said, it's hard to self test whether you're a narcissist when self delusion comes into play. Some of the choices felt like posts between the grand canyon (choosing between extremes, both of which are incorrect). Still, it made me think about some things about myself that I'd rather not. <br /><br />I admit that I am not satisfied with my life, but I am not sure if I ever will be. I feel I deserve peace but I resist what that entails. It's scary.Kevin Rhttp://wayfarernation.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6801485432556979796.post-62443058072910212282012-03-19T20:57:41.548-07:002012-03-19T20:57:41.548-07:00I score 7 out of 40.. at age of 32.I score 7 out of 40.. at age of 32.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6801485432556979796.post-52644631600885288422012-02-19T14:35:55.444-08:002012-02-19T14:35:55.444-08:00Mmm... Let's see. Scored a 21, with a 4 in sel...Mmm... Let's see. Scored a 21, with a 4 in self-sufficiency and exploitiveness, and a 5 in entitlement. So what if I want to rule the world? (Just kidding... although it would be fun... until the paperwork arrived. Maybe just a small country... What?)<br /><br />I don't consider myself narcissistic (I will admit I'm pretty, and I do not dive for cover every time a mirror is introduced to the room, but then if I did that would be kind of worrying...) I think I'm just more confident in my own abilities.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6801485432556979796.post-4418658752386053722012-02-13T13:42:11.773-08:002012-02-13T13:42:11.773-08:00Hi anonymous,
You scored a 9? That's way unde...Hi anonymous,<br /><br />You scored a 9? That's way under the average. Be careful. You might turn into a doormat. <br /><br />j'est kiddin'<br /><br />I don't know how to interpret the low scores people are reporting. if anyone reading this has links or articles about 'low scores on the NPI', please let me know. Several people have asked me about this and I can't answer their questions.<br /><br />I think it's very important to let life 'flow'. To 'roll with the punches' as they say, rather than trying to control God, Earth and Universe to get whatever we want. Besides, as many have testified, getting what we want ends up being what we don't want. <br /><br />Anybody remember "Monkey's Paw?"<br /><br />Working with young adults can be so rewarding. Why? Because it isn't easy. ha! As we get older, our desire to find meaning and purpose in our lives seems to direct us towards younger generations. Our impact on them. That's wonderful that you are offering your support to our youth!<br /><br />Re: scoring higher on the NPI<br /><br />I'm sure, just like you, that my NPI score would have been higher as a young woman. Life has a way of breaking through our immature narcissism, doesn't it? <br /><br />Thanks for reading and commenting. <br /><br />Hugs,<br />CZCZBZhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09575206236892096611noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6801485432556979796.post-40439223370842212372012-02-12T14:34:36.583-08:002012-02-12T14:34:36.583-08:00I scored a 9 on this test (age 45) but could see h...I scored a 9 on this test (age 45) but could see how, ten or more years ago, I would have scored 20 or higher. <br /><br />Think the reason for the low score is that I've been letting life roll through me without taking anything or myself too seriously. I spend a lot of time with my own teenage children and work with young adults- I think that has been helping me to view narcissism as perhaps a healthy part of adolescence, but something that adults need to grow out of...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6801485432556979796.post-14413032114053524242012-01-10T13:15:00.203-08:002012-01-10T13:15:00.203-08:00Hi Lei,
Not everyone posts their score so no, you...Hi Lei,<br /><br />Not everyone posts their score so no, you didn't miss anything. My score (as I recall) was close to the middle, just slightly under the norm. I realize however, that knowing the test was measuring narcissism impacted my responses. I tried to be honest and answer fairly despite knowing it was a Narcissism Test. That's one test you hope to flunk.<br /><br />The thing to remember is that the NPI has been criticized for measuring both adaptive and maladaptive narcissism. You can't get a clear picture of your unhealthy narcissistic traits with the NPI. A new test is being used called the Pathological Narcissism Inventory and you can find a few articles about this test by googling PNI. <br /><br />It stands to reason though that the same traits being measured on the NPI (Narcissistic Personality Inventory) will be exaggerated for someone with a narcissistic personality DISORDER. However, that's not exactly true either! The NPI measures 'grandiose' narcissism, not vulnerable, fragile, or what some define as “covert narcissism.”<br /><br />“Would you say that if I may have general Narcissistic traits, that it would still be a good idea to follow your guide to ward Narcissism?”~Lei<br /><br />I am intrigued by your question, Lei! I’d like to address this more extensively in a separate post. If you have other questions, please post a comment and I’ll offer my thoughts and my experiences. <br /><br />p.s. Life itself will challenge our narcissism…encourage us to mature and let go of maladaptive behaviors. A crisis of some kind may release us from our ‘false self’. Then it it labeled as a ‘corrective experience’. For those with a more serious narcissistic disorder, a crisis becomes a corrosive experience exacerbating pathological narcissism.<br /><br />Hugs,<br />CZCZBZhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09575206236892096611noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6801485432556979796.post-26987833113600933772012-01-09T18:29:07.005-08:002012-01-09T18:29:07.005-08:00Hi there CZ,
I scored a 5 on this NPI test, but a...Hi there CZ,<br /><br />I scored a 5 on this NPI test, but am unsure of how others scored on different categories. Did I miss something?<br /><br />Also, your blog has been very, very helpful and insightful. About a week ago I've stumbled on the meaning of Narcissism, and realized that I used to share many of those traits. In a way, I feel that I still do, relating to wanting attention and affections. For the first few days I was honestly terrified of the fact that I may still be a Narcissist.<br /><br />Upon further readings of Narcissism however, I'm still learning that there are many types of Narcissism. And according to your recent post, it may not even be a disorder-type Narcissism. It is still not clear to me whether or not there is something wrong with my personality, but I feel that your guide of things a Narcissist should follow helps me in many ways.<br /><br />I feel I cannot accurately describe my situation, but perhaps it was my past self that, I feel, has gone through a heavy episode of a sort of Narcissism without proper knowledge of what it was that I were going through. In my situation now, I suppose I can say that I still think like the Narcissist, to an extent, but do not act like one. My beliefs have drastically changed after, I suppose, reality squeezing the Narcissism out of me in a particular episode in my life. To this day I still feel a desire for attention and affection in my life, but do not (unknowingly) manipulate people's reactions or sympathy anymore, since I'm aware that what I used to do (before I figured out it was a form of Narcissism)was bad, or I suppose that I have acknowledged my mistakes.<br /><br />CZ, would you say that if I may have general Narcissistic traits, that it would still be a good idea to follow your guide to ward Narcissism?Leinoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6801485432556979796.post-4404700517201809172011-12-30T15:43:33.813-08:002011-12-30T15:43:33.813-08:00Hi Anonymous!
Remember! This test measures 'n...Hi Anonymous!<br /><br />Remember! This test measures 'non-clinical' narcissism. In other words, it measures 'NORMAL' narcissism.<br /><br />People often confuse pathological narcissism (Narcissistic Personality Disorder) with test scores from the NPI. There are other tests for measuring pathological narcissism, NOT the NPI.<br /><br />Without knowing your backstory, it's hard to say whether the answers you selected on the NPI are reflective of 'unhealthy' narcissism or not! <br /><br />The real question to ask yourself is how your relationships are going? You have to look at all of your relationships including work and neighbors. Unfortunately, some people are stuck in a whole family of narcissists which might make you wonder if its YOU, not them. But examine how you get along in society in general and if the same scenarios presents itself over and over again, then perhaps this NPI test can help you see which traits might be causing relationship problems. <br /><br />Narcissistic people will ALWAYS have relationship problems.Not with just one person but with many. They generally leave a wake of victims in their path especially if they are pathological narcissists.<br /><br />I have used the NPI to better understand myself so you may want to study more about the NPI. You can read this blog entry to better understand the seven traits measured by the NPI:<br /><br />Narcissistic Traits and the NPI: http://n-continuum.blogspot.com/2010/03/narcissistic-traits-and-npi.html<br /><br /><br />Hugs,<br />CZCZBZhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09575206236892096611noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6801485432556979796.post-16852526473884600072011-12-29T18:22:26.037-08:002011-12-29T18:22:26.037-08:00I tried to answer these questions as honest as pos...I tried to answer these questions as honest as possible. After reading the comments, I am a bit ashamed to say my score was 32. Okay. What does this mean? And how can I seek help? I grew up an only child and have trouble feeling affection for a recent sibling. Does narcissim have anyhting to do with that?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6801485432556979796.post-48059362855707526972011-09-13T12:05:12.544-07:002011-09-13T12:05:12.544-07:00"There's a Jack for every Jill," isn..."There's a Jack for every Jill," isn't that what they say?<br /><br />I'm pretty sure your Jack is not a pathological narcissist though, Jill. If he were, you wouldn't be saying your relationship works so well because it wouldn't. Unless you were a masochist and most people aren't.<br /><br />Just because someone has high self-esteem, and might be a little arrogant, that does NOT mean they are pathological narcissists. There's a HUGE difference between your everyday average narcissist and a pathological narcissist.<br /><br />Most people do not understand the difference. And that is tragic because people who have 'tried' to save their relationship, falsely BELIEVED they could make the marriage work, and ended up broken, traumatized or at worst: Dead.<br /><br />I am happy to hear that your relationship works well for both of you! I hope that continues for the rest of your lives or even forever if you believe in an afterlife. I love it when two people stay committed to one another and MATURE together. It's a beautiful thing. <br /><br />Hugs,<br />CZCZBZhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09575206236892096611noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6801485432556979796.post-42823475102314096082011-09-13T11:37:06.008-07:002011-09-13T11:37:06.008-07:00Wow!! Hubby and I always knew he was narcissistic,...Wow!! Hubby and I always knew he was narcissistic, as his favorite saying from youth was "me first, me first". He scored a 37, and only missed one in each of the three categories: authority, exploitative, and entitlement. We make a great match, because he got my dose of self-esteem! Weird how opposites attract and that we are able to make it work so well considering. Just proof it you really want to make a marriage work, for the most part you can (talking about both parties--not one person).Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6801485432556979796.post-14053980608713308072011-07-31T13:38:12.023-07:002011-07-31T13:38:12.023-07:00Hi Anonymous-21,
Well, what your score says is th...Hi Anonymous-21,<br /><br />Well, what your score says is that you are higher than average for 'trait narcissism'. It does not mean you have a personality disorder nor pathological narcissism. <br /><br />But theoretically, it would be fair to say you are narcissistic. Does that scare you?? If the average score for celebrities is lower than yours, does that concern you? <br /><br />Perhaps you are young and haven't had time for life to squish the narcissism out of you...or perhaps you are as special as the test suggests. I use the NPI as a guide to areas of personality that might need more scrutiny and don't view the NPI as a measure of pathology---because it is not.<br /><br />Hugs,<br />CZCZBZhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09575206236892096611noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6801485432556979796.post-90302138964073479622011-07-31T13:27:26.033-07:002011-07-31T13:27:26.033-07:00Sooo I Got 21.. Does That For Sure Mean I'm A ...Sooo I Got 21.. Does That For Sure Mean I'm A Narcissistic? I Just Wanna Make Sure I am Reading This Right.. :oAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6801485432556979796.post-34879303248822412342011-07-26T10:27:36.773-07:002011-07-26T10:27:36.773-07:00Hey Anonymous July 26th,
You scored 27?? That'...Hey Anonymous July 26th,<br /><br />You scored 27?? That's pretty high on the narcissism scale. Are you looking for a new occupation? With a score like that, you might consider starring in a Reality Show. Or writing your own blog.<br /><br />The NPI does not measure pathology, nor indicate a NPD. <br /><br />I don't know who you are (or do i?), but you might be having trouble with intimate relationships if your partner/family/friends aren't very patient or accommodating. 27 is a high score. Younger people might have a higher score than some of us older folks who've had a few decades to work through our narcissism.<br /><br />I think the answers are predictable if someone wants to control their final score. It's my understanding that students were not told they were taking a test to measure narcissism. For those of us who are aware this is a 'narcissism' test, the results can be skewed however we want them to be, ya know? <br /><br />How do you feel about scoring 27? <br /><br /><br />Hugs,<br />CZCZBZhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09575206236892096611noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6801485432556979796.post-62367256958391747932011-07-26T10:07:41.138-07:002011-07-26T10:07:41.138-07:00hey CZ I scored 27... What is that exactly??hey CZ I scored 27... What is that exactly??Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6801485432556979796.post-35642770618574818292011-02-19T01:14:10.612-08:002011-02-19T01:14:10.612-08:00I was looking for some good Personality Inventory ...I was looking for some good Personality Inventory survey question and this would be the best. thanks a ton! you made my morning!<br /><br /><br /><a href="http://www.samplequestionnaire.com/personality-inventory-questionnaire.html" rel="nofollow">Personality Inventory Questionnaire</a>Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com