tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6801485432556979796.post6747636314422058436..comments2024-02-22T02:15:01.912-08:00Comments on The Narcissistic Continuum: Oprah and Rielle and Johnny-on-the-spotCZBZhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09575206236892096611noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6801485432556979796.post-26129118227679977942010-06-28T04:28:25.568-07:002010-06-28T04:28:25.568-07:00I'm married to a narcissist :( He's so acc...I'm married to a narcissist :( He's so accomplished... so charming... so needy<br /><br />Thank you for your blog - in related post you said the "The narcissist trades down, not up." SO freaking true.<br /><br />If I had gotten out the first time he fell into a funk and "traded down" I'd have 13 years of my life back.LeastLikely2Breedhttp://leastlikely2breed.netnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6801485432556979796.post-74823401032641857832010-06-02T21:58:53.386-07:002010-06-02T21:58:53.386-07:00Having seen the interview on Oprah I just about bu...Having seen the interview on Oprah I just about busted a gut laughing at the first half of your blog, CZ.<br /><br />Man, was that good:):) Excellent, in fact. As was the rest of your blog.Nonehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06786351646760596663noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6801485432556979796.post-67990994117408008932010-05-15T19:06:33.450-07:002010-05-15T19:06:33.450-07:00Hi CZ,
What a wonderful thread here! Lots of ins...Hi CZ,<br /> What a wonderful thread here! Lots of inspiring words from your commenters. And, I love your words, "old washed up narcissist," which is what the one I knew pretty much is... And like you say the world, all of us have failed them. <br /> I sure don't understand why life gives such harsh times to good people. I think anyone, ANYONE, can be a victim of a narcissist. <br /> Thanks again for the writing you do here!<br /> dogkisses and hugs too.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6801485432556979796.post-40671464873681456022010-05-15T13:10:03.870-07:002010-05-15T13:10:03.870-07:00Where is that Time Machine?
Wait until the infamou...Where is that Time Machine?<br />Wait until the infamous D&D from Johnny, and then the instantaneous enlightenment, clarity, and insight will come and Rielle will have her Buyers Remorse. Due to the fact that enlightenment comes so very quickly, pretty much automatically, to the Infidelity Whispers of the world once the D&D has occurred makes me seriously doubt the Authenticity of their post-event, post-failed relationship claim of I can't be held accountable for my actions at the time "I was in deep denial". <br /><br />During their "honeymoon" time w/the Great Counterfeit these Infidelity Whispers tell others any excuse/lie we are willing to accept as truth & believe, "their undying love for one another, they are soul-mates, he really isn't a bad husband, father, politician, etc. They are banking on the general public's mass stupidity, and unfortunately, more often then not, the public accepts these lies proving them right and giving honor to the un-honorable. When did it become honorable to be some man's mistress? When did wrong become right? <br /><br />Just like a dog returning to is vomit, these Infidelity Whispers enjoy the ego boost that the cheaters are giving them by choosing them specifically to roll around in the filth of adultery. It is only until there is no pay off for the Infidelity Whispers, after the D&D, can they admit to the cheaters disgusting deceitful behavior -- fun thing is they never admit "their" participation is/was as equally deceitful and disgusting.Soaring Dove is Letting Gohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16470811256241169554noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6801485432556979796.post-18633737168625520492010-05-09T19:39:06.189-07:002010-05-09T19:39:06.189-07:00So glad you no longer see the man who was never th...So glad you no longer see the man who was never there and only the man who is and cannot be anywhere but in his ego<br /><br />and Happy Mother's Day to you too my lovely friend.<br /><br />LouiseLouise Gallagherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13522775693728655487noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6801485432556979796.post-15495401794982393832010-05-05T11:19:02.410-07:002010-05-05T11:19:02.410-07:00The quote that Upsi pulled up...wow.
My Nsis just...The quote that Upsi pulled up...wow.<br /><br />My Nsis justifies everything she does as her "good" intentions. And watch out if you disagree or try to shine light on her behavior! She will have none of that. After all...she knows best!<br /><br />Self-righteous in abundance. <br /><br />Another great post!Sojournerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05371601869204844111noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6801485432556979796.post-12203224112511718362010-05-05T10:01:50.834-07:002010-05-05T10:01:50.834-07:00"So to women like myself, women who see the m..."So to women like myself, women who see the man’s soul as more authentic than his honest-to-God entitlement, arrogance and downright lack of integrity, we’ll see bonding where there isn’t any. We’ll see empathy and miss the manipulation. We’ll see widdle-pwotective-defenses instead of aggressive offenses. We’ll see courage instead of cowardice; generosity instead of bribes; compromise, not resentment; righteous anger not hateful rage; love not fear. We’ll see, just like Rielle, the man who isn’t there."<br /><br />Thank you CZ for clearing my head out of the FOG with these words. I can still get lost from time to time in the fantasy, and that was right on, and explained it perfectly.<br /><br />Hugs,<br />AnonAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6801485432556979796.post-62836176964888563892010-05-05T09:13:45.837-07:002010-05-05T09:13:45.837-07:00Very well done, and an accurate analysis. But Rie...Very well done, and an accurate analysis. But Rielle seems so common, to me. <br />There are so many like her out there in the world, though I'll admit few can say they played loose with a potential President.<br /><br />On the other hand, if you start counting the ones in history that we know about, well,.............<br />gosh, there are quite a few!<br /><br />I hope it doesn't go with the office, but power corrupts, and absolute power corrupts absolutely, as they say. <br /><br />DorisAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6801485432556979796.post-7486056895049004922010-05-04T18:04:40.053-07:002010-05-04T18:04:40.053-07:00This is a great analysis, CZ. I love this line:
...This is a great analysis, CZ. I love this line:<br /><br />"She wants you and me to like her in spite of the unlikable things she has done. She expects us to accept her intentions as being more truthful than her choices. And if we don’t do that, we are being judgmental. This is the mantra of the narcissist, not the sociopath"<br /><br />I mean, that is pure poetry to my ears. Thanks as always for your clarity.<br /><br />xo<br />upsiinsihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15138938163815255743noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6801485432556979796.post-588993475183892612010-05-04T11:37:48.747-07:002010-05-04T11:37:48.747-07:00"...he looked pitiful, looking around at the ..."...he looked pitiful, looking around at the empty seats beside of him, and no person wanted to talk to him."<br /><br /><br />Tugs at your heartstrings a little, doesn't it? That's how many old narcissists end up, you know. <br /><br />They are the Tragic men. The Broken men. The Men who had everything most of us dream about and set about destroying THEIRS and other people's lives because it's never enough.<br /><br />The Men who appear to be strong and valiant and competent and yet, fall to their knees when a Whisperer comes along and validates their unhappiness. <br /><br />I've seen so many affairs end up destroying people's lives that I could write a book about my friends (and some of my enemies, LOL). <br /><br />In the end, when the narcissist has used up the best narcissistic supply he could ever get (because it was real and therefore abundant), he is lonely, depressed and isolated. He can't even attract those amazing 'whisperers' anymore either. <br /><br />It is sad. Sad is the best way to describe my feelings for old washed-up narcissists who even in their washed-upness, aren't as sad for themselves as I am. <br /><br />ha!<br /><br />See to me, there would be nothing worse than knowing I had killed people's love for me. To a narcissist though, his defenses probably step in and protect him from feeling such grief and pain. <br /><br />The old narcissist may look like he's suffering because of the rotten, horrible and selfish things he has done but that's because WE are interpreting their behavior (projecting our feelings onto them).<br /><br />Nah, the old narcissist is miserable because the entire world is filled with incompetent nincumpoops and every single one of 'em has failed him miserably.<br /><br />Such a sad life for such a special person to be born into such a sad world of incompetent and nasty people, isn't it?<br /><br />LOL<br /><br /><br /><br />Love & hugs, <br /><br />CZCZBZhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09575206236892096611noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6801485432556979796.post-42830459438920633022010-05-04T06:34:10.293-07:002010-05-04T06:34:10.293-07:00Hi,
Nice post CZ. Mr. Edward lives in my town. B...Hi,<br /> Nice post CZ. Mr. Edward lives in my town. Before this scandal, he would be seen in the grocery stores, in parking lots talking to folks and was simply one of our neighbors.<br /> Now, he is still seen, only without people surrounding him, and sometimes, like my friend seeing him recently at a public show of some sort, (I can't recall), but my friend said Edwards was all alone. He said he looked pitiful, looking around at the empty seats beside of him, and no person wanted to talk to him. <br /> He is not the popular neighbor he was not that long ago. And you know, I once trusted him. I really did. He was from a town near where I grew up. He was one of us -- I thought -- but I was wrong and quite disappointed.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com