tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6801485432556979796.post7238176457718560707..comments2024-02-22T02:15:01.912-08:00Comments on The Narcissistic Continuum: Invalidation: "You are NOT funny!"CZBZhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09575206236892096611noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6801485432556979796.post-48442446353292968112014-12-28T16:07:10.019-08:002014-12-28T16:07:10.019-08:00i am so glad to be blessed by the reality of more ...i am so glad to be blessed by the reality of more and more people who are blogging and exposing narcissists for exactly what they are - soul damaging sacks of dung. Suehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12009191540139452049noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6801485432556979796.post-32489956041675599622014-02-17T14:55:47.315-08:002014-02-17T14:55:47.315-08:00Hi HustlerSam,
Not all narcissists are psychopath...Hi HustlerSam,<br /><br />Not all narcissists are psychopaths. Not all narcissists are predators. Narcissists are subject to unconscious defenses, just as we all are.<br /><br />It sounds like you've encountered a Malignant Narcissist who consciously and intentionally destroys other people "as needed." But even malignant narcissists are capable of forming relationships and feeling guilty, unlike psychopaths. <br /><br />You may be interested in this post about the Narcissistic Continuum. It describes distinctions between "normal narcissists" and "malignant narcissists." You'll have to copy and paste this url into your browser:<br /><br />http://n-continuum.blogspot.com/2013/11/narcissism-key-from-healthy-to.html<br /><br />Narcissistic people do a lot of damage in our society and I think that the less malignant forms of narcissism are the most destructive overall. Why? Because these narcissistic behaviors are normalized.<br /><br />Hugs<br />CZCZBZhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09575206236892096611noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6801485432556979796.post-67985702977351385262014-02-17T14:29:04.358-08:002014-02-17T14:29:04.358-08:00Narcissists EXACTLY know what they are doing. They...Narcissists EXACTLY know what they are doing. They are born predators. They are hurting people ON PURPOSE. They are psychopaths.HustlerSamnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6801485432556979796.post-64117513602952094502012-06-29T12:51:19.345-07:002012-06-29T12:51:19.345-07:00Hi Dave,
I got an email alert notifying me of you...Hi Dave,<br /><br />I got an email alert notifying me of your comment, otherwise I might have missed it! Now that you've told me about your 'warped sense of humor', I'll be on the look-out. Thanks for the warning!<br /><br />And yes...you are right about narcissists ridiculing victims and insisting they laugh at their own abuse!!That is so warped that we see it all the time and consider it normal. <br /><br />I do not poke fun at other people's expense. Wait. That's not true. Making fun of narcissists is my favorite pass-time. ha!<br /><br />p.s. That does not preclude having empathy for their issues. However, laughing at their issues is protective because it diminishes their power over me!<br /><br />Hugs,<br />CZCZBZhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09575206236892096611noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6801485432556979796.post-10510369274399726432012-06-28T07:46:45.027-07:002012-06-28T07:46:45.027-07:00Hi CZ again. I found this post because of an image...Hi CZ again. I found this post because of an image search, which I like. I bet you're great company at dinner or wherever. I was always accused of having a warped sense of humour. This tactic amounts to pure jealousy of your popularity. <br /><br />I've found that Narcs use ridicule and if the victim fails to see the funny side then it's they who have no sense of humour. Now that's warped to me.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11969754189605721233noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6801485432556979796.post-7706193965914662462012-01-06T11:42:41.955-08:002012-01-06T11:42:41.955-08:00Hi Ruth!
Having a healthy sense of humor (which d...Hi Ruth!<br /><br />Having a healthy sense of humor (which does not mean laughing when people get hurt), has benefited my nephew. The one who has Aspergers. He has learned to laugh at himself because he hasn't been mocked or ridiculed or made the 'butt of jokes'. <br /><br />People can be maliciously cruel or sarcastic and then blame the object of their ridicule for not having a sense of humor. They do or say something that cuts the other person to the quick and then accuse them of not being able to take a joke!<br /><br />Being able to laugh at myself has been a real blessing...i used to be much more self-critical 'cuz I grew up in a 'shaming' household. Laughter allowed me to work through the shame that bound me (John Bradshaw was my first teacher...I am so grateful to this man).<br /><br />Smile on, indeed! :)<br /><br />Love,<br />CZCZBZhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09575206236892096611noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6801485432556979796.post-63280065506685340592012-01-05T22:50:59.049-08:002012-01-05T22:50:59.049-08:00Sorry I missed this post earlier. I could have us...Sorry I missed this post earlier. I could have used the laughter. I believe that in some situations you can laugh or cry and I prefer laughing. Your perspective is delightful and your sense of humor awesome. I search for the humor in every situation. I am learning to see the humor in dealing with narcissistic people. The predictability can be very funny. My sister and I sometimes have to restrain ourselves from bursting out laughing at family gatherings. Smile on. :)Ruthhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07083142637240943607noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6801485432556979796.post-7903432231648271822011-12-26T18:23:21.880-08:002011-12-26T18:23:21.880-08:00Oh Crap~! So that is why I tend to laugh during f...Oh Crap~! So that is why I tend to laugh during funerals??? Who put the 'fun' in that word....LOL!<br /><br />Yep, when you are in a crisis, the real person stands up...or hides. I've done both.<br /><br />Merry Christmas, CZ and all here.<br /><br />Narcissists don't 'get' humor, or denigrate it in others, because a very important part of their humanity is missing. <br /><br />Their wiring is all wrong.<br /><br />Lady Nyo...not laughing that she can't zip her pants today....too much stuffing.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6801485432556979796.post-18321704060871053932011-12-20T09:23:06.319-08:002011-12-20T09:23:06.319-08:00Well, dear friends, thank you each so very much fo...Well, dear friends, thank you each so very much for being here. For your kindness, your encouragement, your validation. Your friendship means so much to me. <3 <br /><br />I'm not feeling very funny this morning, though. Too many opened boxes still brimming with dusty Christmas decorations waiting to be arranged somewhere in the house. I have six half-finished vignettes in the kitchen, dining, and living room. My ambition hasn't caught up with my arthritis. ha! Unlimited IDEAS, you know---and limited energy to finish them. Getting old is not for the humorless.<br /><br />When taking stock of all that's yet to be done before my son arrives for the holidays, I took a few moments to think about the last ten years of my life. Those of us in ‘recovery’ say that at some point, we found meaning in our demeaning...hope in our hopelessness, something good in the bad. What I have discovered is a deeper trust for my ‘true’ self, which I hope each of you has gained, too. <br /><br />We 'think' we know who we are and we 'think' we can predict our reactions to terrible, even traumatizing events. We 'think' we know ourselves well. But do you really know who you are before you’re in a crisis? <br /><br />In all the turmoil our family has undergone the past decade (this mess started when I was fifty and I’ll be sixty in January), the self-doubt, the self-blame, the self-criticism, one thing is certain: When the False Self shatters, as only the brave can allow, our true character emerges. <br /><br />Actually, to tell you the truth, I am much funnier in a crisis than in peace. Isn’t that a lovely thing to know about your character? That you can trust your inner comedienne to arrive exactly when you need her the most? <br /><br />Thank you for being here and for laughing through the tears with me. <br /><br />Love,<br />CZCZBZhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09575206236892096611noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6801485432556979796.post-38645267625788684322011-12-18T22:50:15.172-08:002011-12-18T22:50:15.172-08:00I SO get your sense of humor CZ and am grateful fo...I SO get your sense of humor CZ and am grateful for it. I've always been told that I'm the funny one - by family and colleagues. But when I was involved with a N, he didn't seem to appreciate my sense of humor. I'm not even sure he GOT it, if you know what I mean. Several times I wrote notes and it just went over his head. Then he'd tell me some awful sex-related joke that a "friend" had emailed him and laugh himself silly. Geez, what is wrong with THAT picture? My husband and two sons have laughed ourselves silly over some gut-wrenching issues. Our sense of humor was our saving grace. Amen.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6801485432556979796.post-32666515621380613492011-12-18T13:48:11.325-08:002011-12-18T13:48:11.325-08:00I love your sense of humour -- I always come away ...I love your sense of humour -- I always come away from reading something you wrote and think... wow -- she is so brilliant, and funny to boot!<br /><br />I tend to have to remind my daughters and Charles -- I'm so funny -- to which they roll their eyes and say, Of course you are. :)<br /><br />Of course I am :)<br /><br />Tee hee -- your humour keeps me grounded. And I truly am in awe of how you can find the wittiest way to say something -- the greatest compliment is... Oh my I wish I'd thought to write that! And I say that a lot when I read what you write.<br /><br />love it.<br /><br />Love your sense of humour.<br /><br />love you!Louise Gallagherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13522775693728655487noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6801485432556979796.post-57528088240693673372011-12-16T13:23:32.676-08:002011-12-16T13:23:32.676-08:00Oh CZ.....I've been there: the threat of physi...Oh CZ.....I've been there: the threat of physical violence....in your face, or barely beneath the surface.<br /><br />However, what I wanted to say is yes, your sense of humor is part of your charm, but it's also (and to me a more important aspect) part of your incredible ability to 'connect' with readers on a very personal and uplifting level. I find your writing full of a delightful human touch: you don't hold yourself above readers, you touch them both in heart and mind. As another writer, I have come to understand how rare that actually is. And you never whine. You state what is and what happened and we, your readers, can feel the results for ourselves...because of that fundamental connection you have made from the first. <br /><br />It's called EMPATHY!!!!!<br /><br />I want my own readers to come to your blog because you make it all 'plain'...concerning these horrible issues of narcissism. And you do it with humor, humility but also wisdom that shows from particular experience. You have paid your dues.<br /><br />I'll check my blogroll, but I definitely want readers who come to my blog to go get the wonderful experience of reading yours.<br /><br />Hugs,<br />Lady NyoAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com