tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6801485432556979796.post7352334349922538715..comments2024-02-22T02:15:01.912-08:00Comments on The Narcissistic Continuum: Denial is the Opposite of IntuitionCZBZhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09575206236892096611noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6801485432556979796.post-8304885221702072262015-06-13T17:24:02.818-07:002015-06-13T17:24:02.818-07:00Hello Guinivere,
It's a pleasure to meet anot...Hello Guinivere,<br /><br />It's a pleasure to meet another person who's found answers in psychological literature about narcissism. Valuing our own opinions and trusting our feelings seems to be part of the healing process. Narcissistic relationships undermine our sense of self, our sense of reality and it's pretty normal, I think, to start doubting ourselves. We usually over-explain ourselves, justify and defend ourselves and even so, the narcissist is unconvinced that our thought processes (or feelings) have merit equal to their own.<br /><br />It's wonderful that you are educating yourself and returning to people's blogs/websites to continue learning about narcissism. Knowledge is imperative because we can't base our healing on what we know about "normal" relationships. <br /><br />It sounds like you had a dangerous experience with someone who had a pathological personality (which is much worse and much more dangerous than "benign" narcissism). I'm glad you're out and I'm glad you're okay!<br /><br />Thank you for reading my take on No Contact. I wasn't sure how well-received it would be and the response has been, so far at least, somewhat mixed. I thought about writing it after watching narcissistic people use No Contact to "punish" perceived offenders---and no one questioned their self-righteous behavior because hey, No Contact. Thanks again for your comment!<br /><br />Hugs,<br />CZ CZBZhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09575206236892096611noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6801485432556979796.post-7864418862018670082015-06-12T05:01:18.280-07:002015-06-12T05:01:18.280-07:00I've been educating myself for 10 months since...I've been educating myself for 10 months since I started my recovery and am still surprised that I find new blogs each time I have the need to do reading and remind myself of what happened. Intuition, yes the red flags are there, but I think it boils down to not believing that your own opinion is validated enough by the fact that it exists. To trust your own feelings and opinions as valid and a good enough reason takes constant focus. And I suppose we hang around in bad situations simply because we need the proof, somewhere you said we are people that believe in being fair, so naturally, at least for me, a feeling without proof felt unfair to act on, till I nearly lost my life. So, now I am practicing being a good enough reason for myself and sticking to what I feel is right not allowing second guessing to rule my mind. But it remains a learning curve and a work in progress. BTW, I like the no contact flipped on you thing and the refreshing approach to low contact and no contact - it's the closest to realistic I've seen the topic to be written about.Guinivere Pedrohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10655761972572816293noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6801485432556979796.post-41834483757551150672008-12-07T13:44:00.000-08:002008-12-07T13:44:00.000-08:00Thank you, Storm! I've been preoccupied with a fam...Thank you, Storm! I've been preoccupied with a family situation but will be posting again soon. <BR/><BR/>I appreciate your support and validation so much, I hope you know that. <BR/><BR/>If I don't write for a long time, I can be extra-ordinarily long-winded...so before you read my next post, you'd best pack a lunch. ha!<BR/><BR/>Hugs,<BR/>CZBZCZBZhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09575206236892096611noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6801485432556979796.post-41665294849395664012008-11-30T09:53:00.000-08:002008-11-30T09:53:00.000-08:00Another astutely reasoned, well presented post.I'm...Another astutely reasoned, well presented post.<BR/><BR/>I'm a great fan of yours, CZ. Not to pressure you or anything, but I hope you'll be posting again here before too long - it's always well worth reading what you have to say.<BR/><BR/>Meanwhile, happy belated Thanksgiving - and yeah, your blog is something for which I definitely give thanks! :-)Stormchildhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05039949137714076734noreply@blogger.com