tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6801485432556979796.post7752588185561037157..comments2024-02-22T02:15:01.912-08:00Comments on The Narcissistic Continuum: When I grow up, I wanna be...CZBZhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09575206236892096611noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6801485432556979796.post-51603951662456745072011-11-12T21:38:32.785-08:002011-11-12T21:38:32.785-08:00This is a beautiful post. "I think when I gro...This is a beautiful post. "I think when I grow old, I want to be myself. An all-the-way-to-the-core nice person; but this time: expecting to be treated as kindly as I treat others." Me too.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6801485432556979796.post-91421421067817910422008-04-18T15:00:00.000-07:002008-04-18T15:00:00.000-07:00Good Great GRAND STUFF !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!"I’ve been r...Good Great GRAND STUFF !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!<BR/><BR/>"I’ve been running a message board for years now. My capacity to tolerate humiliation has increased and basically, I have no pride left to protect." <BR/><BR/>LOL<BR/><BR/>LUVAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6801485432556979796.post-78051808410855820912008-04-17T21:29:00.000-07:002008-04-17T21:29:00.000-07:00Hmm... diminishing the relevance of the bad times ...Hmm... diminishing the relevance of the bad times and desperately clinging to the good times. Yeah. I still wonder if I am overstating the bad. And yet, I have left so much out. It does help to put it in alphabet letters. ;-) But it is also hard - harder than I thought it would be. There is a lot more there, but what I have written will suffice for now. <BR/>Thank you.Jeannette Alteshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06574051760314762024noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6801485432556979796.post-39504357442119414762008-04-17T06:41:00.000-07:002008-04-17T06:41:00.000-07:00Dear Katherine,Writing helps everyone. Not just th...Dear Katherine,<BR/><BR/>Writing helps everyone. Not just the writer who reconstructs his or her life in written word, but also readers who identify with what is written. Disciplining myself to put life experiences in a logical sequence, was fundamental to "Making It Real."<BR/><BR/>If we grew up in abusive households or were in an abusive relationship, it is very hard to make sense of the Bad Times considering there are also Good Times. Until we write it out in alphabet letters, we are susceptible to diminishing the relevance of those Bad Times and focusing (desperately, I might add!) on the Good Times.<BR/><BR/>Putting our lives back together is like a jig-saw puzzle and even if 3/4 of the puzzle is in place, we can't see the entire picture without the last few pieces reluctantly added to the whole. <BR/><BR/>This process may require an enormous amount of time or it may happen quickly. Every person's story is different and that's what makes blogging such a powerfully healing experience---for everyone.<BR/><BR/>Hugs,<BR/>CZBZCZBZhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09575206236892096611noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6801485432556979796.post-69412838291409570402008-04-16T13:15:00.000-07:002008-04-16T13:15:00.000-07:00CZ~Hmm... my friends keep telling me I am very cou...CZ~<BR/><BR/>Hmm... my friends keep telling me I am very courageous. I don't feel all that courageous - mostly just desperate and afraid and like a little girl lost. The pieces are still pretty scattered for me. But you story gives me added hope in the recovery of them. ;-)<BR/><BR/>Smiling... cyberstage fright. I like that - it fits. Sometimes, I wonder if I'm crazy putting this stuff out there for everyone to read. But it helps - me and those who read it. So... maybe that is what courage is.<BR/><BR/>Hugs back.Jeannette Alteshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06574051760314762024noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6801485432556979796.post-11744251094550939932008-04-16T08:43:00.000-07:002008-04-16T08:43:00.000-07:00Gee Whiz! I guess there's more to when it comes to...Gee Whiz! I guess there's more to when it comes to posting replies to people's comments. Do i have to approve my own comment and what happens if my comment doesn't meet my approval? Do I deny my own reply? <BR/><BR/>There's nothing quite as comical as a 56-year-old dinosaur learning how to use 21st Century technology.<BR/><BR/>Where's the postcards?? I'm pretty good at licking stamps. <BR/><BR/>Thank you Stormchild and Katherine for replying to my message. Blogging is a strange experience. It's like standing on stage without seeing the audience. CyberStage-Fright freezes up the fingers when a blank page sits there just waiting for me to Do Something. So, I'm Doing Something. LOL <BR/><BR/>It's comforting to know people are there even if I can't see ya.<BR/><BR/>The Identity Crisis we face after an emotional trauma is underrated for the potentially irrevocable damage we face. It's certainly not common knowledge which means most people encounter the Abyss by themselves, without anyone telling them it's NORMAL to feel lost, empty, hollow...well, normal in an abnormal way. <BR/><BR/>I did NOT know who I was when everything I had identified with was shattered. Slowly, all the bits and pieces of myself are coming back together. <BR/><BR/>Finding our way out of the abyss requires more courage than we even knew we had.<BR/><BR/>Many hugs to both of you,<BR/><BR/>CZCZBZhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09575206236892096611noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6801485432556979796.post-24654561807308575322008-04-15T20:34:00.000-07:002008-04-15T20:34:00.000-07:00Yeah. I want to be myself . . . am still figuring ...Yeah. I want to be myself . . . am still figuring out who that is. <BR/><BR/>I'm rooting for you. ;-)<BR/><BR/>Stormchild~<BR/>"It's about becoming real."<BR/><BR/>Finding reality and living it. For the children of narcissists, that is sometimes a bit of a labyrinth. But it is worth the effort . . . to be real.Jeannette Alteshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06574051760314762024noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6801485432556979796.post-59707946777242767432008-04-15T18:22:00.000-07:002008-04-15T18:22:00.000-07:00"I think when I grow old, I want to be myself."Ame..."I think when I grow old, I want to be myself."<BR/><BR/>Amen, amen amen!<BR/><BR/>The Skin Horse would be proud of you [remember the Velveteen Rabbit?]<BR/><BR/><B><I>It's about becoming real.</I></B><BR/><BR/>Hugs back,<BR/><BR/>StormchildStormchildhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05039949137714076734noreply@blogger.com