|The daughters of Sir Matthew Decker by Jan Van Meyer, 1718|
Risking being fooled the second time is nerve-wracking. Letting defenses mellow in a relationship enhanced by difference, is the next task to master in life post-narc. An effective way to start is checking in with feelings being triggered during a conversation. Some of those feelings are appropriate and some are residuals of the narcissistic relationship. One thing for sure though, if we don’t acknowledge our feelings, they’ll demand our attention and not in a pleasing manner. My fear of rejection was shouting loud enough to get everyone’s attention!